Every year is filled with new experiences, people, and places, and with these are the inevitable lessons that we learn along the way. Here are mine.
- You cannot get through life on your own.
As much as I want to be an individual who takes pride in knowing that they can march triumphant through life without help from others, this is impossible. I am coming more and more into the realization that I was not made to get through life on my own. I need God and I need people. I am still a strong and independent individual but every warrior needs an army.
2. Physicality is not everything.
In 2018, I went through moments of insecurity, dissatisfaction, and constant comparison of my body/physical attributes. However, these moments were rivaled with factual thought that on my death bed, my hope won’t be that people remember me for how I looked or who thought I was pretty but what I accomplished and who I touched and helped. Also while I wish for a certain characteristic that someone else has, that same person has probably felt moments of insecurity towards that feature or wishes for a feature that someone else has. Basically, life is too short and beautiful to focus on how we look. At the end of the day, you may not like your height but there is someone who wishes they could stand. Live your life knowing that you are enough.
3. Faith not tested cannot be trusted.
It is extremely easy to stay hopeful when times are well but when there are trials and tribulations, that’s when real faith will persevere. Nonetheless, do not be discouraged if your faith falters because if you go about things in the right manner, faith tested is faith that becomes stronger. The “right manner” being, you do not give up.
Luke 12:28 – “And if God cared so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, He will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?”
4. Unforgiveness and holding grudges can eat you alive.
I strongly believe in the mantra “forgive but don’t forget,” however, I recognized that I was neglecting the first part, forgiving, and just doing the last which is basically a grudge. Moreover, as my Aunt so wisely said: “Holding a grudge against someone else is like holding a gun to your head, pulling the trigger and expecting that person to get shot.” A very extreme way to put it but effective.
5) Never lower your standards for anyone or anything.
6) It is absolutely necessary to take breaks from social media.
7) Christmas becomes stressful as you get older and have responsibilities to fulfill.
8) Do not wait on someone to do something, if it needs to get done then do it yourself.
9) You don’t have to explain who you are to anyone.
*Picture taken by yours truly